I longed for a life of purpose and possibility but felt trapped by same-sex attractions.

Hi, my name is Jason Mellard.

For many years, I questioned my identity and worth. I suppressed my attractions, denied them, and prayed them away.

But in the end, I felt more separate from the men I admired and the identity I desired. I felt powerless, lost, and alone.

Something had to give.

Then one day, God brought someone into my life who helped me view my unwanted attractions as an opportunity instead of an obstacle.

I gained autonomy from my sensations and feelings by practicing mindfulness, received healing from trauma in a supportive setting, and stepped into the compelling future Christ created for me.

I chose to embrace my identity in Christ, which became the cornerstone of my transformation.

Now, I no longer obsess over my attractions.

I embrace vulnerability as an equal with other men and take courageous action in line with my purpose.

And I get to empower others do the same!

That’s the mission of Own Your Identity:

To empower men who feel held back by unwanted same-sex attractions to live a life of purpose and possibility.

Not sure where to begin?

STEP 1:

Get Clarity

Take this quiz to discover where you are letting your unwanted attractions hold you back.

STEP 2:

Get a Framework

Watch this video where I break down my journey.

STEP 3:

Get Vision

Book a free 1-hour coaching session.

STEP 4:

Get Moving

Join the next Own Your Identity coaching group.

Own Your Identity Advisors

Bruno Borges

Bruno is the Men’s Minister at Living Hope Ministries and Director of the Institute of Biblical Sexuality.

He holds a Bachelor of Science in Nonprofit Management from Mercy College, and a Master of Arts in Education from CUNY Hunter College. He is a Ph.D. candidate (ABD) in Family Ministry and Generational Studies at Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary.

Learn more about Bruno at livehope.org

Dr. Douglas Carpenter

Dr. Carpenter is a Licensed Psychologist and professor in the field of psychology. He and his spouse, Mary Carpenter, LMSW are the founders of Insight Counseling Services in Auburn Hills, Michigan. Dr. Carpenter holds a Doctoral degree in Clinical Psychology from the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology, earned a Master of Science in Counseling and Substance Abuse Rehabilitation from Pace University, and has an Associates of Arts in Theological Studies from Kent Christian College.

Learn more about Dr. Carpenter at douglascarpenter.com.

Jose Gloria, LMSW

Jose Gloria is a licensed master social worker committed to bringing attunement and empathy to his work. He is skilled in understanding and connecting with the emotional experiences of others. With a compassionate presence, he creates a safe space for clients to address challenges and explore solutions.

Learn more about Jose here.