Mindfulness During SSA Urges

Mindfulness During SSA Urges

Have you ever felt like your SSA experiences were running the show—like they had all the power? I want to talk about something that trips so many of us up: the felt experience of unwanted same-sex attraction—a mix of physical sensations, romantic feelings, and thought...
What Takes Courage for You?

What Takes Courage for You?

In my life, I’ve seen other guys do some pretty incredible things. Start new businesses, grow families, and begin movements with worldwide impact. In the meantime, I was just trying to believe I belonged in the world of men. They were far around the bend of the...
He’s an Attractive Guy. Period.

He’s an Attractive Guy. Period.

Have you ever noticed how quickly your mind can turn a simple observation into a full-blown story? You see an attractive guy, and before you know it, your brain is off to the races: He’s better than me. I’m not good enough. I need his approval. I hope he notices me....
Dear Younger Jeff

Dear Younger Jeff

Dear Younger Jeff, Here you are at 11 years old when, for the first time, you are feeling drawn to every part of your friend Mark: his body, personality, mind and soul. You want to be just like Mark. You want him to like you. I get it. You wonder how you will make it...