Own Your Identity

Own Your Identity

What you say after the words “I am” is the most important thing about you.  A FRAGILE SHELL My mom has been teaching my daughters how to decorate blown eggs. They put scotch tape over each end, push a pin through it, and blow out the insides with a straw prior to...
Discard Shame

Discard Shame

Two years ago, God gave me a picture of the ground beneath me as thick mud. Just a couple inches. Sometimes saturated with water, sucking at my shoes and making that awful slurping sound when lifting them up. Other times it was dry and went unnoticed. It represented a...
Fear Magnifies Your Same-Sex Attractions

Fear Magnifies Your Same-Sex Attractions

Fear makes things bigger.  It’s the shadow of a bedside toy looming as a monster on the wall.  It grows with time, exaggerates risk, fosters isolation, and veils your dreams. Left unchecked, it keeps you stuck. It has for me.  FEAR COSTS US Sitting at my...
Demystify Your Attractions

Demystify Your Attractions

Attraction is multifaceted. It comes in all shapes and sizes. By identifying the attractions we feel, we remind ourselves they are simply experiences. They do not define who we are. We can appreciate their messages and leverage them to grow.  During a recent...
My Story

My Story

I don’t have what it takes to be a man.  That’s what I told myself.  I have a vivid memory of my dad and me wrestling. He called it wrestling. I know now it was physical abuse. He would pin me down and tell me to break free. But with the same effort I used to...