It’s just peach fuzz

It’s just peach fuzz

As a young teenager, I presented my upper lip proudly to my dad. Black hairs had sprouted.  “Dad, I’m getting a mustache,” I said.  He turned to face me. Without moving closer, my dad declared, “It’s just peach fuzz.”  What? Not true. “It’s the start of a...
Is Masculinity Beyond Your Reach?

Is Masculinity Beyond Your Reach?

A belief of separateness from masculinity is a primary driver of same-sex attractions.  As a boy, I had an out-of-body experience during a father-son activity meant to bring connection. The “wrestling” he initiated ended in me laying on my back pinned between his...
Talk to Yourself, Don’t Listen to Yourself

Talk to Yourself, Don’t Listen to Yourself

When I was young, the mirror was a comfort to me. My reflection gave me certainty; it told me I was likable and competent. I was touring the architecture building at my future college. I widened my eyes at the vast, bustling space as I walked through the glass entry...
Rewrite the Story of Your Past

Rewrite the Story of Your Past

It would be naive and harmful to pretend the abuse of my childhood didn’t happen or that its effects weren’t real. It brought confusion, stunted my growth into manhood, and led me to seek validation from unhealthy sources. But it’s not the liability I told myself it...
Dear Younger Me – Bruce

Dear Younger Me – Bruce

Dear Younger Me, I want to give you an essential truth. If I had known it at your age, it would have transformed the way I lived. Please receive it and believe it. Your life will not be the same: The Father, Son, and Spirit are always good, always kind, and always...